I might be totally behind on this, but I love different colors on my nails. I remember watching Promising Young Woman and seeing [Carrie Mulligan’s character] had that. I don’t know if that’s been happening for three years, but that’s a trend that I’m liking a lot right now! And that taking care of your skin is more important right now than makeup. I know that beauty can sometimes be enhancing what you have, but I definitely feel like if it is coming from taking care of ourselves, then that’s the holistic approach—in my view—to beauty.
What beauty rule do you think is B.S.?
Words like antiaging. Why are people using that? I am aging! Or concealer. I’m like, do I have to conceal something? Why can’t we find loving self-care words to name these things? I mean, you wouldn’t say anti-breathing. So let’s find different words for that.
What’s the best beauty advice you’ve received?
Growing up in Mexico and the U.S. and France, I went through three different cultures as a young girl and as a teen, and saw so many different standards of beauty. In France, little to no makeup was the way to go. In Mexico, it was the opposite. So what that taught me was that I could make up my own standards because the standard is me. Now, with that said, I still grew up hearing things like, ‘be proper,’ or ‘don’t speak your mind because it’s not attractive,’ or ‘you better look a certain way or boys won’t like you,’ because of how the culture works and the system works. But luckily, as an adult, I’ve been able to unlearn all these things. And my hope is that with my daughter I can pass on the freedom of loving who you are. As a mother, that’s what I look forward to more than anything.
What skin care products do you swear by?
Right now my situation is that I’m breastfeeding two kids, so I am as dry as the driest desert in the land! Not even Aquaphor does it for me. So I finally found a shea butter balm called Liha from Thirteen Lune. It’s a Black- and brown-owned company, everything is clean, and it comes from West Africa. You can put it on your face, on your hair, on your body, etc. But the trick for me is to put it on in the shower because the hot water helps make it easier to apply all over since it’s so thick. It helps with stretch marks, too.
Something else I got at Thirteen Lune that I love is from Gloryscent Beauty—its Urbana elixir with edelweiss and ginseng. It’s one of those spraying, freshen-up kind of mists that I always take with me because I’m so dry. It revives my face, my mood, and smells lovely. And then I love anything from Beautycounter because the entire line is clean. I love their deodorant, which is all-natural.
You have such fantastic eyebrows. What do you use to fill them in or keep them in place?
When I get stressed, I have a tendency to pluck out my eyebrows with my fingers, and now I have little indents of spaces without hair. So I use Chanel’s eyebrow pencil—mine is like an ash brown color—and I fill them in a little bit. Otherwise if I fill them in too much, they’ll look like caterpillars. And I use a wax, so they don’t go all wacky on me.
What do you use to keep your hair in great shape?
Virtue shampoo, conditioner, and the healing oil. It is great. I try to go a few days between washings. So that, combined with drinking a lot of water, and taking my prenatal vitamins—since I’m still breastfeeding—all of that helps.
Finally, with so much going on in your life, how do you take a moment for yourself?
What I need to do is literally escape. I’m talking get out of the house, get in the car and take some time for yourself. I know sometimes that’s not possible, but even if it’s 10 minutes away while someone else watches the kids, then I’ll be a much better human being, mother, everything. But you have to ask for help, because if you just push through it, freakin’ Godzilla’s gonna come out. And you don’t want that!
Jessica Radloff is the Glamour West Coast editor. You can follow her on Instagram at @jessicaradloff14.