When you’re beating yourself up and striving for perfection, it makes it hard to improve. And really, all we can and should be focused on is improving every day. When you let go of trying to be perfect and instead love and accept yourself for who you are and where you are, and give yourself some grace, you can have a better chance at improving the things you so desperately want to improve.
What products can you not live without right now?
I’ve been using Olay’s Nighttime Body Wash and Conditioner before bed, and they pretty much rejuvenate your body overnight. The retinol in the formulas kind of flush out all that dead skin and create you anew. But you do have to do your own research when it comes to retinol, because it’s not a one size fits all. For me, though, it’s been great. My skin has become more moisturized.
How do you gas yourself up on days when you’re not feeling confident?
First off, it’s the company you keep. People emanate energies, and in return, who we are, our thoughts, and our patterns mirror those around us. So I make sure good, positive people surround me. Also, I dress up. I feel like makeup and clothing can sometimes take you out of a slump. But at the end of the day, nobody is perfect. We all came into this world naked—no clothes, no makeup―nothing. And that journey of going in and out of loving ourselves through the imperfections can get hard. So sometimes, it’s within.
Who are the women inspiring you the most right now?
My mother and my sister are very beautiful to me for the simple reason that they are 100% themselves. They own who they are at every moment. My sister taught me that being funny and being goofy is beautiful and cool. It was my first time seeing an alternative Black girl. And as a Black girl, those things were not very everyday or accepted. My mom has always been a powerhouse. She never allowed other people’s intimidation of her to stop her from being who she is. And stop her from shining.
And then, as a third person, Queen Latifah, because she shows that beauty is really, truly from within. Every time I was around Queen, she treated everybody with kindness, no matter who they were. She always acknowledged me, and she made me feel like I was important and unique. And I wanted to have that kind of beauty inside. So it enforced me to pay that forward.