Gwyneth Paltrow is opening up about what she learned and gained from her divorce.
During a recent appearance on Anna Faris’ podcast, Unqualified, Paltrow said she “never would have wanted” to break things off with Chris Martin, her former husband of 11 years. The couple famously “consciously uncoupled” in 2014 and officially divorced in 2016.
“I never would have wanted to get divorced,” she told Faris, per Harper’s Bazaar. “I never would have wanted to not be married to the father of my kids. Theoretically.” The pair have remained close and share a 16-year-old daughter, Apple, and a 14-year-old son, Moses.
Still, Paltrow said her split with Martin led to a healthy relationship with her current husband, writer-producer Brad Falchuk. “I had learned more about myself through that process than I could have imagined,” she said. “And because I focused on accountability, I was then able to find the most amazing man and build something that I’ve never had before.”
Back in August 2020, Gwyneth Paltrow penned an essay for Vogue U.K. about accepting that her marriage to Martin was over. “It was my birthday, my 38th. My ex-husband and I were tucked away in the Tuscan countryside, on a hill in a beautiful cottage with a view of the forest,” she wrote at the time. “I don’t recall when it happened, exactly. I don’t remember which day of the weekend it was or the time of day. But I knew—despite long walks and longer lie-ins, big glasses of Barolo and hands held—my marriage was over.”
The Goop founder was able to admit that she and Martin “didn’t quite fit” as a couple. “There was always a bit of unease and unrest,” she continued. “But man, did we love our children.” It would take three more years before they split.
Ultimately, Paltrow wrote that both Martin and Falchuk—whom she does not live with full time—have played different, yet equally important roles in her life. “I know my ex-husband was meant to be the father of my children,” Paltrow wrote, “and I know my current husband is meant to be the person I grow very old with. Conscious uncoupling lets us recognize those two different loves can coexist and nourish each other.”